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Build Attraction
Seduction Tip:
YOU Are a Prize
Most men simply don’t understand how to build attraction
Seduction is a delicate process that can be ruined easily by acting like the other person is a prize. When some men meet a woman who looks out of his league, there is an immediate power shift if he doesn't remember to watch his body language.
Always remember that YOU are the prize.
The way to virtually kill attraction is by showing a woman that you like her, early on. A lot of women can read your thoughts. Well, maybe not your thoughts, but your body language, which is the way you express your thoughts.
It’s almost psychic, because really, not everyone can do it… most guys can’t…unless they
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Seduction depends on noticing what isn’t said, just as much as what’s said… it’s all about subtley.
People who pay attention can FEEL the power shift when you don’t exhibit cues which show that you are a prize.
She knows what you’re thinking when she plays with her hair or adjusts her boots. She may even know what you’re thinking when she makes a witty comment. And if she’s approached all the time, she knows what you’re thinking when you fall for one of her sexual innuendos.
Beta Males are virtually transparent.
When you are dealing with attraction-seduction, or just regular flirting, people have a general idea of what way you’re going to steer the conversation. Don’t bore them.
With an Alpha, you have no clue what they are going to say next. They keep us guessing. And they don’t let on exactly how great they think a person is… especially not someone they just met. I’ve made this mistake myself.
One particularly normal day I accompanied my friend to the mall when she was trying to get a new cell phone. We walked over to the kiosk and there I saw the most beautiful, bald-headed, physically fit, nicely dressed Italian guy. Rrrowwwl.
This guys was definitely Alpha. Within the first 5 minutes, he had already invaded my personal space by putting his arm around me and showing Alpha Male behaviors. He had that perfect mix of boldness, cocky-ness, and teasing.
Now this guy was short, about my height at about 5’7”, 5’8”, and he wasn’t incredibly good-looking, but the way he carried himself told me that he was an Alpha. And did I mention that he was bald? A guy who goes bald before 35 better learn to accentuate the positive or he’s doomed.
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Seduction of your mental and emotional equal depends on it.
So anyway, this guy, whom we’ll call Frankie, was so attractive to me. I played it cool, yet my friend noticed my body language shift. She picked up on the fact that I thought he was really hot. As we walked away from his kiosk, I asked her why she hadn’t ever mentioned him. She just laughed and said that she knew I would like him.
Then I messed up. I made it a point to visit the mall 3 times in the next two weeks. The first time, he wasn’t at the kiosk.
The second time, I talked to his co-workers and asked where he was. (Of course, they probably told him... decreasing my value and increasing his.) Then, the third time, he was there - and here was my mistake – I showed exactly how excited I was to see him. Call it a moment of weakness around that desirable Alpha Male.
For some reason, my usual Alpha flirting went out the window and I became a “fan” of his. Yuck. Standing on the outside, anyone could tell who was more interested. Anyone could tell who thought the other was more valuable. This is a huge mistake because you aren't showing that you are valuable. And you are! We are all Alphas... it's just that sometimes we don't show it.
Tip for Attraction
Seduction is a dance… interested, not interested, interested, not interested, two step, twirl, and dip.
By the end of the meeting, I had bought an expensive cell phone… and although we had each other’s numbers (because he was Alpha, he made sure to program his number in my new phone while saying that he “wanted to be the first”) we never hooked up. Why? Because I showed my nervousness and feelings without also showing that I was a prize.
Since people pay attention to non-verbal cues as much as verbal cues, it’s important to make sure that what you say matches what you do. When you show a person that you like them, that has to be followed by moments (hours/days) of doubt. That is how you build tension... and tension is incredibly sexy.
This is how you make the dating game fun for both of you.
Love Yourself
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When you work on YOU!
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