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Bad Girl Bianca's Date Tip #4: Do not buy her gifts. No roses, candy, jewelry or trinkets. Save that for Christmas. Cards are the way to go. Give her a card... preferably still in the bag.... with something funny and cute written inside of it so that whenever she reads it, she giggles. Do not declare your undying love and affection, though saying "I love you" is a nice touch after you've both said it aloud a few times. Okay, so I thought I would illustrate this date tip, the difference between Beta Males and Alpha Males, by telling you about one of my dating experiences. There was one time when I was dating 5 or 6 guys, and two of them really stuck out. The one who ultimately “got” me, and the one who ultimately got stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone. . Mr. Beta Male and I met outside my job one day as I sat at a picnic table reading a book. We shared some delightful banter back and forth, found out that we had some similar interests and then exchanged phone numbers. Over the course of a week or so, I saw him twice… During the second meeting he told me that he had tickets to a Trans-Siberian Orchestra concert and that he wanted me to go with him – that night. Great date idea, poor timing. I declined, but told him that we could get together another time. Another week passed and I didn’t see Mr. Beta. Finally, I got a text from him, and we text-ed back and forth for a bit before he told me that he would call me later. When he called, he asked me out for the coming weekend. Cool. I was even feeling a little excited about seeing him because his absence had created anticipation. We agreed to meet in a store parking lot near my house where I would leave my car and roll with him. On the day of the date, he sent me a text letting me know when he was leaving his house. When I arrived at the agreed upon location, I saw Mr. Beta’s truck and got in. He was dressed a little 10 years ago, with a bright silky shirt and khaki pants, but it didn’t really matter because he was neat and clean. He complimented an accessory on my fabulous ensemble and we were off. I asked him where we were going and he said that it was a surprise. Girls love surprises! Actually, I think everyone does. Surprises build attraction. Good job, Beta Male. Anyway, as much as I prodded, he wouldn’t let me know where we were going… That's Alpha Game... he should have continued it. A few minutes later, he pointed, turned into a parking lot, and told me that we had arrived at the spot. I glanced over and saw the big yellow Denny’s sign. Are you kidding me? Thankfully, he was…more Alpha game that he should have kept up. We pulled up to the doors of a semi-fancy steakhouse, and the valet opened my door and let me out. Mr. Beta Male extended his arm to me as we entered the restaurant. Dinner was great… juicy, tender steaks and succulent lobster dripping with garlic butter. He told me a story about catching lobster when he was younger. He was an entertaining date, the food was great and I was definitely impressed. Next he started looking at his watch and informed me that we had to be at our next destination… Surprise Number Two… Yay me! He wouldn’t let me pay for anything, but as an Alpha Female, I offered… after declining my offer, he ushered me out of the restaurant, tipped the valet and we were off to our next destination. A comedy club! I was pleased as I love to laugh and have fun. The comic was hysterical and we enjoyed ourselves very much. The ride home was nice, too… after a few drinks and all of those happy hormones running through me, this guy was so close to getting a kiss goodnight. We pulled into the store parking lot and I saw my car… he maneuvered to the spot right next to mine and parked. Then, he eff-ed up. Borderline Alpha turned into a repulsive Beta Male within seconds, when he reached into the back seat and pulled out not one, but 3 wrapped presents. Boo... off to the Friend Zone you go. 
Remember this Alpha date tip: Don't be a gift-buying Beta Male. • Alpha Males do not give 3 (!) gifts – ON THE FIRST DATE! • Alpha Males do not give presents, period. Sure, they are generous, but gifts, especially wrapped (!) ones, should be reserved for birthdays and holidays only. The Alpha Male does not prove his affection through material things... he has nothing to prove to anyone. He does not need to impress and he surely does not need show a woman how much he appreciates spending time with her. He has other things to offer her. Gifts are a BIG no-no. Mr. Beta’s gifts to me were books; one shared the title of the book I was reading at the picnic table on the day we met (sweet, yet a little too much attention to detail so soon). The other was a book he thought would be interesting (that he had not read). And he also (!) gave me holiday cookie decorations because I told him that I would be baking cookies the next day. While I know that Mr. Beta was totally thoughtful, remembering details and appreciating me… he devalued himself at that moment and went home without a kiss goodnight. I mean, why would you kiss a guy in the friend zone? What this gift-giving faux-pas did was make the Alpha Male that I was dating look that much more attractive. Mr. Beta Male quickly moved to the friend zone by letting me know that I was more valuable than him, instead of creating doubt. He gave up his personal power, which made my interest level take a nose-dive... I felt bad for him. I’m telling this story for all of the people who try too hard to impress. Impressing is not the same thing as attracting. Impress means that you try to win favor of another... Attract means you draw others to you because you favor yourself. This is a lesson in self-respect. What better gift than YOU? Remember this date tip and you will be on your way. To read more of Bad Girl Bianca's Seduction Tips for Men, click here. to Bad Girl Bianca's Seduction Guide
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