Dr. Love's Is This the End
Relationship Quiz
Wondering if you're headed towards a relationship break-up? Take Dr. Love's Is this the End Relationship Quiz to find out!
There is an excellent book on the subject of relationship break-ups called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum.
It helps people make the tough call about whether to stick it out or leave by asking 30-something thought-provoking questions. The book is great, but it wouldn’t sell one copy if we all listened to that little voice inside saying (usually screaming) GET OUT OF THAT UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP NOW.
So for those of you who haven’t read this book and are sitting on the fence about whether to stick it out or get out, I will offer this easy five question Is This the End Relationship Quiz about any relationship in your life…
End Relationship Quiz Question - 1.) Do I like this person?
Answer:
Yes – Great. One point for staying in your relationship.
No – Sweetie, why are you staying? If you don’t ’like’, you are not in a relationship that needs to be evaluated. Please get out of the unhealthy relationship! No reason to read the rest of the questions.
End Relationship Quiz Question - 2.) Do I trust this person?
Answer:
Yes – Great. Another point for you staying in the relationship. You’re on your way to avoiding a relationship break-up!
No – If you do not trust the person you’re with you need to examine the reason why.
a. Is it your own lack of forgiveness for one perceived slight? If so, that’s normal. You’re not super-human... and that's okay. It’s hard as hell to forgive someone who you feel hurt you. If you know you can forgive, stay. If you think you can’t forgive, leave. No use hanging it over their head forever. If you do, you are being unkind to both yourself and the other person.
b. Have they repeatedly given you reasons to distrust them? Have they done the same thing over and over again and offered you a half apology (because they didn’t follow through on changing their behavior)? Walk… no RUN.
If someone does the same thing to you more than twice - after you’ve told them how much it hurts you... then that is something that you have no control over.
You must decide if you can live with being hurt on a regular basis. This is probably a very unhealthy relationship for both of you.
No matter how giving, loving, or whatever you are… they will continue to hurt you. You cannot change them, so change you.
(But of course, you won’t because you think about all of the good times and try to weigh them against the bad. That does not work. Hurt cannot be put on a scale. Why is it so easy for little kids to learn not to touch the stove?
Because when they go near it, they feel heat. If they touch it, they burn their hands. As adults, we continue to touch the hot stove. We keep thinking Maybe this time, it won’t be hot! Hellloooo? Stop fooling yourself into thinking that something is going to change for the better. It won’t. They won’t. And you won’t if you stay in a relationship where you can’t trust and be trusted.)
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