How to Get a Girlfriend Fast

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1.) BECOME AWARE OF YOURSELF

If you want to know how to get a girlfriend you need to be able to look at yourself from a "watcher" perspective. When you become aware of how you look to other people (especially to women), you will definitely change a few things about how you present yourself.

Now what I'm advocating sounds a little counter-intuitive. You have to become completely "self-conscious" BEFORE you can stop being so self-conscious. I know, I know, it sounds silly... but unless you go deep and explore your insecurities, you won't be able to drop them.

2.) HAVE FUN AND STOP THINKING SO MUCH

"Does she like me"? "Do I smell alright?" "I wonder if she's looking at my bald spot." Focus on having a good time in that moment and don't give a damn what she's thinking/feeling. You can't know for sure anyway so focus on how you're feeling.

How would you interact with this woman if she were a good friend of yours? A really good MALE friend of yours... you would just enjoy the conversation. That's how you have to act when you're talking to women...that's the confidence that you're looking for.

Stop thinking that you can control her and "make her like you". Either she likes you or she doesn't. But it shouldn't bother you much if you like yourself. There are BILLIONS of women in the world. Literally.

3.) WHEN TALKING TO A "BEAUTIFUL" WOMAN, DO NOT KEEP TALKING ABOUT HER LOOKS!

[Sidenote] I put "beautiful" in quotes because of the old saying "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". That's true... YOU are the one who assigns her value. You are the one who thinks she's so great. By giving her a higher value simply because of her looks, you set yourself below her. Don't do that. She wants to look up to you... her MAN![End Sidenote]

Do not say a whole lot about her looks for at least the first month of relating. You can compliment her character or her clothing, but calling her "Beautiful", "Gorgeous", or the like, should be done sparingly.

The way that "beautiful" women weed men out is kinda animal-like. We are ruthless about it! :-) A beautiful woman knows her value in a culture that puts so much emphasis on looks. She's been told how beautiful she is since a very young age. Men constantly try to get with her JUST because she is good-looking. The way a beautiful woman separates potential dates from friends is simple...

90% of men will comment on her looks.
10% won't.
She is intrigued by that 10%.

A guy with potential is NOT a guy who is so impressed with her beauty that he's willing to do anything to "have a chance" with her. Stand out from the pack by being in that 10%.

4.) ACCEPT YOUR "PERCEIVED FLAWS" AND SEE YOURSELF HOW YOU WANT TO BE

All of us have flaws and hang-ups about our bodies, brains, and bank accounts. After bringing these things into awareness, your goal is to accept where you are... knowing that "where you are" is NOT "who you are".

Donald Trump ran into some trouble and went bankrupt after a high in his career. He had to accept his loss and rebuild his fortune. What if he would have identified with being a "broke man"? Would he have been able to enjoy the success that he has had since that down time in his life? Nope. He would have continued to be broke. What he did instead was ACCEPT that he was broke at that point, but that wasn't "who" he really was.

You see, underneath it all, you are a perfect being. No matter what's going on in your life, the universe is with you because you are a child of the universe (or "source energy", "divine", or "godly" or whatever you want to call it.)

Accept your human condition, but at the same time realize that you are worthy of the best that this world has to offer because you are divinity on earth. Make sense?



5.) KEEP YOUR INSECURITIES TO YOURSELF

I don't know what it is about self-depreciating humor, but I can tell you that it's NOT funny when you're trying to get a date. Mentioning that you need to start working out, that you're short, that you're bald... all that does is draw attention to stuff that no one cares about but you. Stop it.

Remember... we are ALL insecure. That's human... and beautiful women are human, contrary to what you may have been told. Hello… she’s insecure too! Use it to your advantage.

Do not make the mistake of bringing up your insecurities in regular conversation. People only see you how you see yourself. So SEE yourself as awesome and that's what they'll see. Score ten points if you actually 'believe' that you are awesome... then there's no stopping you.

6.) FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

This is precisely how to get a girlfriend. That's right… fall in love with yourself. After you accept yourself, have a love affair with you. Find all the really cool things about you and explore them. What did you always want to do with your life? What interests did you have when you were a child? Discover your "self" and I guarantee that you will find a whole lot to love.

Before you can give love to anyone else, you must be overflowing with it! Like attracts like. In order to get love, you have to BE love.

Ever notice that you could go through a long dry spell in the relationship department, but as soon as you find someone, all kinds of other people are suddenly attracted to you? That's because you're giving off a totally different vibe. The luuuv vibe. :-)

The easiest way to have others love you is to BE "in love" already. And the best way to do that is to love YOURSELF... all the time.

You are the only person who will be there for you no matter what. You are the one person that you can always count on. You are all you have for all your life. Isn't that enough to earn your respect and love?

7.) CREATE YOUR OWN ROMANTIC STORY

For some reason, a lot of men think that women want roses, walks on the beach, and poems written about them. I guess that's what passes for romance. But what I've found is that women want to be the star of their OWN romantic story, not some cookie-cutter Hollywood romance. Help her create your romantic love story by being creative.

Your "pet name" for her doesn't have to be "baby". Your regular date doesn't have to be dinner and a movie. Think outside the box and don't settle for someone else's idea of romance. Be yourselves and do “romance” YOUR way.

In fact, ask her about her fantasies... what SHE likes. Then take that valuable info, wait for the right time, and wow her a variation of what she thinks romantic love is.

Alright, I think I've gone on enough. The point is this... if you see yourself as bald, short, fat, ugly, broke, or any other words with negative connotations, that's what everyone else will see.

First Love You and you will draw in the love you want. Simple Law of Attraction stuff - you can ONLY attract what you believe you are. So if you want love - BE IT!

Happy Relating~

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