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Platonic Relationships
We can deny it all we want, but when someone has something new, cool, or exciting, we start to want it too. It’s human nature to like what other people like. A lot of our decisions about what we like are based on peer influence. Advertisers know this... which is why they include testimonials from people just like you in their commercials or ad copy. We're social animals and we like to know that other people like what we like. Naturally, we also gravitate towards those people who are liked by others. It’s relatively easy to strike up a conversation with a friend of a friend because of your 'link of liking' – your friend. This is how many platonic relationships begin. And in dating, it has the affect of creating desire where there was little. I absolutely love going out with a person who is wanted by other people. It allows me to see their value in the eyes of others and they become more attractive to me. I briefly dated a guy who would always tell me that he didn’t “have anything going on". I would ask him what he was doing on the weekend and he’d say “nothing”. I would ask about his friends and he would say “I haven’t talked to them in awhile.” With each answer to my question, his value decreased. Why? Well, correct me if I’m wrong (and I’m not), NO ONE would want to talk to someone who didn’t have anything going on, was always doing "nothing", and couldn’t locate his friends. If he had no friends but was working on a project that might save mankind, cool. But if he was doing nothing, with no one, and going nowhere, why would I want to join him? I wouldn’t. Platonic relationships are great to have while you’re actively dating. Friends of the opposite sex are the best... Not only do you get to understand the opposite sex and what makes them tick, but you can you learn from them and try out new behaviors. You also gain confidence. And when you finally do start dating someone, and drop the names of your platonic friends into the conversation, you become more attractive... social proof. The desire it stirs is priceless. Plus, you’ll never be at a loss for something to do when you have platonic friendships. This will make you seem less needy when you finally (!) get human contact in the form of a date. When you go out with someone new, you definitely don’t want to appear needy... you won't be needy if you nourish the platonic relationships you have. And you will create a little more chemistry with that certain someone by introducing social proof in the form of platonic friends. Related Articles * Don't Be a Gift-Buying Beta Male * Avoid the Dreaded Friend Zone * Dating Red Flags
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