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Relationship
Break Up or Make Up?:
End Relationship Quiz Part 2
Continued from Relationship Break Up or Make Up?
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Is This The End? Relationship Quiz (cont.)
3.) Do I respect my partner?
Answer:
Yes – Great! One point for staying in the relationship… as long as you have the other four points, you’re golden and headed towards "make up", not relationship break up.
No – If you don’t respect the person, then you are not honoring yourself by continuing a relationship with them. It’s that simple. Respect is earned when you trust someone… only then can love develop.
4.) Do I love ’who I am’ when I’m with this person?
Answer:
Yes – Great! More than halfway towards ZERO relationship break-up worries. It’s fun to be who you really are when you’re with another person. Good for you!
You understand that a fundamental part of having a relationship is that it can be lost at any moment by you taking the risk of telling your truth. Excellent that you choose self-disclosure over comfort. You are being true to you by avoiding an unhealthy relationship with another. Way to go!
No – Why not? If you don’t love yourself enough to be honest about yourself, your needs, and your desires, then you cannot love anyone else. If you can’t be who you are and express yourself openly and freely, without fear of judgment, criticism or abuse, then you are neglecting your needs as a human being. Goodbye relationship, hello lesson in loving YOU first.
5.) Am I healing or hurting myself?
Answer:
Healing – Great! That’s exactly what relationships are for… healing. If a relationship is valuable to us, it is helping us to become spiritually whole. As long as you have four yes’s from the questions above, stay and enjoy!
Hurting – Need I say it? Honey, I don't want to see you hurting yourself. If a relationship is making you sick, weak, or depressed, then by staying in it you are saying that someone else is more important than yourself. That is the epitome of an unhealthy relationship!
You deserve better... please treat yourself better. Self-sustaining should be your ultimate value. Your life, health, and well-being are your most precious values. Treat them as such. Anything that does not help you live a healthy life should be exterminated.... even if that means a relationship break-up.
There you have it. Five questions to ask before any relationship break up. Friends, lovers, parents, employers. They are the only questions you need if you want to know whether you have an unhealthy relationship or not, and if you should stay or go.
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Afterthoughts:
Q. They say that the grass always looks better on the other side. I don’t want to make a mistake. Can you tell me what happens after I leave the unhealthy relationship?
Doctor Love's answer: That is for you to decide.
You can either cry, yell, scream, take revenge, journal, get into another equally or more unhealthy relationship, go on a pump-fest to release your aggression sexually, throw yourself into your work, or a project or into alcohol, drugs and gambling... but Sweetie, that's not the way to really LOVE yourself.
Please will you look deep into yourself. You're an amazing human-being!
Don't let this relationship stop you from being true to you. Instead, you could try to understand what purpose the relationship served in your growth. You could treat yourself lovingly, accept your lessons, and use them to guide future choices.
You could give yourself the love and fulfillment you were so desperately looking for in your relationship. You could dream about the kind of relationship you want in the future to avoid another relationship break up.
You could make the choice to move one step closer to wholeness.
We've all been there... wondering if we should stay or go. Worrying if we'll ever find someone to love us. We may think that we have to stick with this relationship because there's nothing better...
Not true.
Your relationship with yourself could be more fulfilling than the unhealthy relationship you're holding on to. Most of the time the grass really is greener on the other side...it’s just that the weeds in your own yard distort your view.
Let me help you prepare for and heal from your relationship break up. Everything will be fine once you FIRST LOVE YOU.
Happy Relating~
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