Respect Yourself First
Respect yourself and others will respect you.
~Confucius
The reason that Alpha Females and Males get respect is because they value themselves. When you refuse to let others disrespect you, that is proof positive that you respect yourself. You are only treated how you allow others to treat you.
A self-respecting person refuses to be a doormat… Alphas do not get walked on and do not walk all over other people. True Alphas not only respect their own feelings/thoughts/needs, but are not intimidated when others respect theirs. Respect is a two-way street for an Alpha.
Respecting yourself means knowing your own boundaries. In relationships with others, that means being able to say both “yes” and “no” and to mean it. You do not give yourself away to other people and don’t let others give themselves away to you. You do not need another’s approval or validation. You decide that you are the authority about your own feelings, thoughts, and needs and you act in a way that promotes your well-being.
Self-respect begins with learning what you really want, need, feel and think. It’s all self-mindfulness.
You have to be willing to listen to your body and quiet your mind enough to process the sensations.
When you honor your body in this way, you will begin to attract what you want in life. That can be anything from healthy relationships to physical fitness to job promotions.
You have to be aware of what your body and emotions are telling you, in order to take care of yourself and get what you want and need.
The ability to be self-reliant comes from a healthy respect for self. When you realize that you only have yourself to rely upon, you begin to see the world differently. No longer are you searching for someone to fulfill your needs for you. Your number one priority becomes taking care of your needs… as much or more than you take care of others’ needs. Then and only then will you have the strength and desire to take care of others.
The reason that we get so bogged down in life can always be traced back to how we are treating ourselves. When we constantly put the needs, desires and wishes of others above our own, we set ourselves up for upset. While it’s nice to say “yes” to others and to give, we cannot do this while neglecting ourselves.
Women especially have a hard time with this. How often have you said “yes” to this invitation or that, knowing that you would much rather have some “me-time”, then regretted your decision on the day the event arrives?
How many times have you agreed to do something for someone, but then got overwhelmed by the mere idea of the project? You probably only said “yes” to gain approval from others…when your “no” would have gained your own approval.
When you respect yourself – your emotions, your thoughts, and your needs, you are no longer at the mercy of other people’s whims.
You are no longer a beggar looking for something outside of yourself to feel fulfillment.
Alphas are so sexy because they don’t depend on or need you. They are able to love you because there is an overflow inside of them, but it is their choice and their choice alone whether or not they will share their overflow of love with you.
When someone comes to you out of need, you are naturally repelled. Needy people attract other needy people… then they struggle to get their needs met through their partner. It's a vicious cycle.
People who respect and value themselves don’t need anyone to meet their needs because they would rather not depend on another person to make sure their needs are met. They understand that others (whether intentionally or unintentionally) are trying to get their own needs met. Their mantra, instead of "look to others", becomes "respect yourself".
This Alpha quality, self-respect, commands the respect of other people. Remember that the only person who will never leave you is YOU. The only person that have to rely upon is YOU. Isn’t that enough for you to earn your own respect?
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