So we were recently talking about saying thank you. We each recounted stories about receiving a compliment or positive feedback. Instead of saying thank you and accepting the compliment we would explain away the compliment, dodge the positive feedback or downplay it. Does anyone else find themselves doing this too? Here is an example, you are with a friend and they say “Wow, I love that jacket. ”Our quick response is: “This jacket?! It’s so old, I don’t even know why I am wearing it!” When what we could and should have said is “THANK YOU” Here is another example: Someone says “Wow you look great today and you say “No, YOU always look amazing.” See what is happening here? Instead of saying a genuine, heart felt thank you, we dodge the compliment by self deprecating or deflecting the compliment. We don’t accept the compliment. Does anyone else do this too?!
This got us thinking, why as women do we feel the need to dodge compliments and downplay ourselves and our successes? To make others feel comfortable? To make ourselves feel comfortable? Why is it so hard to just say Thank You!? We don’t have all of the answers (we wish we did!) but what we do know is that women are incredible and you are incredible, OWN IT. Own that cute outfit, own looking great, own getting a promotion, own having a great day, own your successes and ultimately own being YOU! Because you know what, You Are Amazing. Now, get after it, girl! Here is a challenge to help you on your way:
FLY Challenge: Your mission, should you choose to accept it is… (who doesn’t love a Tom Cruise reference;)This week, we want you to count how many times you dodge or deflect a compliment.(Your number might surprise you! Ours did!) Next, we want you to notice all of the love and goodness coming your way that you push away when you don’t accept the compliments. Finally, we want you to make a change. When you get a compliment say “Thank You” and then take a minute and let the goodness of that compliment soak in, girl. Feels good, doesn’t it🤍